Sometimes I browse my "Browse me later" folder in my bookmarks and discover things I wanted me to discover. Today I read an article by Mark Manson with the name "You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question" from 2016. It was really enlighning and the right type of text for my current situation in life. I can point you to it but I can't read it for you, so just follow the link.
The key message of the article is spoken out right in the beginning and there are many variations of it all over the text. The last sentence repeats it aswell and here it is, for you it is a small teaser, for me it is a reminder of what I learned today.
"This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend."